Her first experience with sexual molestation
came at the age of 4.
It happened again at the age of 6.
Her mother yelled at her for allowing the boy to 'tickle' her.
In other words, it was her fault.
When she was fifteen, a police officer picked her up in a bear hug and kissed her fully on the lips.
She told no one, who would believe her?
At seventeen, a stranger stalked her while she walked to the bus stop.
She told her mother.
Her mother said she'd asked for it.
She tried to hide from her abuser behind a locked door.
He took the door off its hinges and dragged her by her feet to his bed.
Her boss raped her.
She told no one but left her job.
It changed her life profoundly.
Fear of men became the norm.
I am all these women.
Men have been taking advantage of women since the dawn of time.
For years it's been a given that if you're a woman, men will accost you.
But what hurts the most is that when you do share your experience or fear.
Others will dismiss the occurrence or place the blame for it on you.
Soon, we've accepted that blame, and when the unspeakable happens, we suppress it, learn to live with it, and the rapist goes free.
The only way this will change is if we keep talking about our experiences.
We can't let these men off the hook, even while judges are reluctant to punish them fully.
Even when the first response is, why did you wait so long?
What were you wearing?
Why were you drunk?
Or the worst expression of all.
Boys will be boys!
Please don't elect this misogynist.
This view of women, his view, and the views being expressed by his supporters will become the norm.
Then we all pay the price!